Shamsudden Giwa, a marriage therapist in Nigeria, shares how men can be encouraged to look for other women when S3xual incompatibility occurs in marriage, while advising women to pray and focus on their children.
“Whenever there is an S3xual deficit in marriage, men in our community are encouraged to see other women as solutions, but ask the same person what should she do if the woman is the one who doesn’t meet sexual needs. Suddenly, you hear “patience,” “pray more,” “focus on the child,” “get your child out of trouble,” “get you out of trouble.”
“Hypocrisy appears.
“In fact, S3xual balance in marriage is a lot of work that requires deliberate efforts from both parties. The solution lies in the healthy perseverance and compromise of both parties as they work hard to improve and create a midpoint that can be maintained.
“If the solution to each marriage challenge is to jump ship, then no marriage will survive.”
