- Nigerian singer Simi has spoken out about how a man feels when his wife gives birth to a child and is ignored.
- She emphasized that postpartum focus should be on the mother’s recovery and the care of the newborn.
- Simi encourages men to show understanding and support to their partners rather than resentment.
Nigerian singer and songwriter Simisola Kosoko, popularly known as Simi, has sparked online discussion after she called out men who complain that their wives feel neglected after giving birth.
In a video circulating on social media, the award-winning artist emphasized that the postpartum period should be centered on the mother’s recovery process and the care of her newborn, rather than the father’s need for attention. She urges men to respond with understanding and support rather than resentment.
Simi highlighted the intense physical and emotional challenges women face during pregnancy and childbirth, citing painful medical procedures, body swelling, fatigue and sleepless nights that often follow childbirth.
According to her, these sacrifices far outweigh the temporary lack of attention experienced by men, noting that such complaints ignore the reality that mothers endure before and after childbirth.
She also criticized the tendency for people to ask women about their husbands soon after giving birth, saying it diverts attention from the physical changes, risks and potential complications of someone who has just been through a few months.
Simi insists the welfare of the mother and baby should be prioritized, rather than worrying about whether the father feels marginalized.
Her comments have since sparked widespread debate online, with many social media users agreeing that women deserve unwavering support during one of the most physically demanding stages of their lives.
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Read some of the comments below:
@salem4tweeter: “How’s daddy?” This question is usually asked after we’ve asked about the mother and baby and heard they’re doing well. We asked about the wife and how the children were doing. We ask the husband how his wife and children are doing and how he is doing. No one should ask a woman “How’s daddy?” because, obviously, the focus has shifted, but oh well. “
@Bolu22942805: “The truth…why do you ask questions like this when a woman has just given birth in the hospital? That moment belongs to the mother and the newborn. Is the dad pushing or contracting?”
@alufa_joy: “Even after all this, a man will tell you after 4 months, when you continue his legacy and give him a child with the same private part, your private part is not the same again. He will tell you that it is no longer as tight as when I met you. Your private part is loose.”
@GodwinLovett: “My sister has nerve damage and is still limping two months postpartum. They say it’s ‘foot drop.’ She goes to electrotherapy every week.”
@abass_ganiyat: “That’s not your moment”, it’s always been that way, but some dads want pepper soup. Don’t let her come to me. “
@Don7thgarb: “You see now why ‘dad’ can’t be there? So ‘mum’ can have her moment alone.”
